Tuesday, June 12, 2012

A new beginning, a new life

That's what I have - especially since everything that had became a permanent fixture within my life was ripped from me during the previous year. My only son is gone forever, my former spouse has moved into another town, and I have a completely different job.It goes without saying that I cry everyday for the absence of my son. It hurts. I want to scream. I want to hurt someone for causing me to live with this pain - but it must be dealt with on a daily basis for the rest of my life. I will never recover from it, but at least I have adapted to life without him in it finally.
My former spouse.....what can I say? She was - and always has been an opportunist - a whore when I met her, and a whore even to this day. Enough said. Oh, and I forgot........with the intellect of a 12 year old..there.

I told my employer to stick it. Why? Because I can, and because they did me wrong. Sometimes you can show people better than you can tell them. Ha!

So, that leads me to the point to where I tell you what's been going on in Jeff's life..... I started a small blog back in February to give me something to do, because let's face it - I had to be rebuilt literally from scratch. Yeah, I'm really fortunate to be writing this right now.....I have been very happy as of late though, and fortune has smiled upon both me and the garden. It is the best year so far, and the orchard has really done well. The big surprise was the plums, because both trees had a bumper crop this time. One tree alone produced three 5 gallon buckets full, and is being used to make wine right now.....The other provided fruit to make some beautiful jelly, and in all - I made 16 jars of it.


The corn did exceptionally well, and here's a picture of part of the harvest. I know my buddy Kris in Georgia is loving this picture right now......


Squash has really put out this time, and I've already given away 10 WalMart bags full so far....Several quarts of pickles have been made too, and this garden just keeps on putting stuff out.

Four melons have been slung already, and this nice Moon and Stars is the largest so far. With 13 individual melons planted, things could get interesting later.....



I have a new look - especially since losing 50 lbs, and feel great. No more chewing tobacco, dressing like a redneck, or sitting at home all the time either. I'm out and about constantly, and either go on a date or to see a concert every weekend. Oh, and it's not with the same lady each time....lol.


Jude continues to be the only permanent fixture in my life, and I love her with all of my being. She has helped me through some really tough times over the past few months, and I reward her often by taking her to get ice cream at McDonald's.


Anyway, just figured I'd post something since life had improved drastically. I'm stronger than ever before, but it sure was a difficult road getting here. My ex-wife would do well to stay as far away as possible, though, because forgiveness is simply not within me at this time. A special place is reserved in hell for people like her, and even my friends still can't believe what she did to me when I was already down.....Oh well, I walk as a Giant among men once more, and will from now on.....

Also, my twin brother has started a  Gardening blog, and you will definitely enjoy it. His is a traditional garden located in South Carolina, and be sure to visit his Mayan travels site, too.

Jeff

58 comments:

Stefaneener said...

Well. Welcome back. Always good to hear from you (and see Jude, the beauty of the pair!).

GrafixMuse said...

I was grinning from ear to ear when I saw this blog's update show up in my sidebar. Welcome to your new life.

Jeff Vandiver said...

Thank you Stef

Jeff Vandiver said...

Aw, really? Well......it felt like the right time.

Daphne said...

That corn looks so good. I keep hoping for corn. I have four spots planned with 20 plants in each. But it just isn't working out like that. It really has been hating the weather swings we have been having. And the last bed just hasn't come up and I planted it 10 days ago. I think I might have to replant again. We are going to be in the 60s again tomorrow, but then it might just warm up. Maybe.

I'm so glad you are enjoying life again. Coming back from so much has to be a struggle.

Robin said...

Yippee!! A new Jeff! Love the pink pantyhose or knee highs!

The Moss Boss said...

So glad to see you back! I'm happy you are doing better emotionally and physically. Keep up the good work and I can't wait to see more posts in the future.

Annie*s Granny said...

It's about time, young man! You have a lot of friends waiting for you. You know we'll help you over the rough spots in your life...love ya, Poopyhead.

Jeff Vandiver said...

Daphne - I always start my corn in cellpacks, just to help matters.

Jeff Vandiver said...

Robin - they do look kinda pink, don't they? Hmm......but, they're standard tan color

Jeff Vandiver said...

The Moss Boss - thank you. :) Jeff is a brand new man with a fire inside that hasn't been present in 10 years.....

Jeff Vandiver said...

Love you too, Granny......

Alison said...

Welcome back, Jeff! I hope you keep posting. I love Jude's antics, and hearing about what's growing in your garden, and what you've planted. You're one of my gurus.

Allison Preiss said...

Hi There! Grannies blog led me here! I look forward to checking out what you have going on in your garden...that corn is amazing!!

Greg Vandiver said...

And if he starts slacking again....I'll give him a swift kick in his rear to get him jump started. LOL

Kris said...

You know I am loving that corn picture. That is some good looking peaches and cream corn.

I am glad you are getting back in the groove, and I look forward to you posting again. You know where I am, email me anytime.

Jeff Vandiver said...

Alison - thank you. :)

Jeff Vandiver said...

Hi Allison. Thank you for stopping by.....

Jeff Vandiver said...

Hey Brother, what you need to do is come get some of these plums!

Jeff Vandiver said...

Kris - I'm glad you approve, ol' buddy.....

Greg Vandiver said...

I don't have time to come by and get some of those plums. I wish I did, though! I'm struggling to get this inspection done here at the poultry plant in Collinsville this week. It's a freaking DUMP! They have 4 refrigeration systems, too!

Peggi said...

I am so glad to see you are posting again and doing so much better. I was really worried about you for a while there.

I found your other blog on accident and did a happy dance.

1st Man said...

Welcome back to blogging. I only discovered your site late last year and I spent time looking back over it. I've learned a lot and missed you. I'm glad to see you back and will look forward to new posts. That jelly looks AMAZING. Simple jelly recipe? Or something special?

And wine? DO share that info when the time comes.

Willow's Quiet Corner said...

Jeff!

What a delightful surprise to find you pop up on my reading list again! I had been wondering how you have been doing! That plum jelly looks really yummy!

I have been fighting Keeled Treehoppers this year. They are absolutely destroying my tomatoes, peppers and eggplants! :(

Langela said...

Glad to see you back. I've enjoyed reading through your posts in your absence. Came over from Granny's blog and have been checking back for your return ever since.

David said...

Welcome back EG...

The Redneck Rosarian said...

Glad to hear things are looking up for you. Corn looks great and the jelly too! Glad to see Jude. Have missed her antics on your videos!

Barbie~ said...

Was glad to see the update this morning on my Google Reader. Missed the old verticle gardening aspects, and Jude updates, of course!
Lovely bunch of corn there. (I'm jealous) My corn was minature. Delicious, but tiny. LOL>

Anonymous said...

Welcome back Jeff,

I have never written but have followed your blog about your garden and your life. You had to be strong to both endure and to share this with the world. I had been asking about you on other blogs and you just pop back. Looking forward to more of your projects. I did not even plant a tomato this year yet. So I must get on the ball.
Welcome back,
Frank from Virginia

Tiny Gardener said...

Just stumbled here due to Granny... I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your son. It is good to see you are on track with life and looking great doing it! I look forward to reading many more posts! Welcome back!

Garden center Irving said...

I was grinning from ear to ear when I saw this blog's update show up in my sidebar. Welcome to your new life.

Jeff Vandiver said...

Oh well, you'll make it

Jeff Vandiver said...

Peggi - I'm doing much, much better - thank you.

Jeff Vandiver said...

1St man - the jelly was made with the surejell recipe.....

Jeff Vandiver said...

Willows quiet corner - it's good to be back

Jeff Vandiver said...

Langela. - thank you

Jeff Vandiver said...

Thanks David

Jeff Vandiver said...

Oh, you wouldn't believe what Jude has been up to.....lol. I'll have to do a post just on her.

Jeff Vandiver said...

Barbie - thank you....

Jeff Vandiver said...

Frank - it has been tough, but I'm a fighter. Thank you for your concern

Jeff Vandiver said...

Thank you

Jeff Vandiver said...

Thanks

Mrs Tightwad said...

Welcome back, you look great, well done!

Jeff Vandiver said...

Thank you

Erin said...

soooo happy to hear an update from you! I'm so glad your garden is doing so well and that Jude is doing well, and congrats on the new you, you look great!

~Gardener on Sherlock Street said...

Good to see you and the garden are doing well.

nutmeg gardener said...

I used to enjoy reading your blog and missed it when you stopped. I'm so sorry for all you've suffered through, glad you are doing better and glad to see your blog is back. Keep sharing your good gardening!

Jeff Vandiver said...

Erin - thank you. It's been a long time coming

Gardener on Sherlock street - yes, we finally are.....

Nutmeg gardener - thank you for the kind words....

rmgales said...

Joined your blog while you were regrouping. May you be blessed in all your endeavors. I'm looking forward to reading your posts, and learning a few things about gardening. Hope you can stop by.

Liisa said...

I had to smile when I saw Granny's post that you were back. Someone had posted one of your blog post on a Facebook page that I follow just a few days ago. I commented that I really missed your posts... and here you are! You sound great and look awesome...lookout girls he's back ;-)

Let me know if you get out my way. Santa Cruz is calling :-)

Jeff Vandiver said...

rmgales - thank you very much.

Liisa. - I'm definitely in better shape than previously been in 20 years, and fortune has smiled upon me with the ladies... :)

Spiderjohn said...

Man, it's about time! Been worried and have wanted to e-mail you, but knew you needed time to work through everything. Glad you're back, glad you're stronger, glad you're healthier and glad that you're still connected to your brother. Ill be checking out his blog. Peace.....

Nartaya said...

I'm so glad that the sun is shining on you again and things are looking up. Looking forward to hearing about your great harvests this summer.

Phillip Oliver said...

I was wondering what had happened to you. Sorry to hear about your loss but glad you are feeling better. You look great!

5339f said...

Welcome back. Missed you. Congrats on making it thru the dark side. Nice to see Jude, also.

Anonymous said...

It is so good to have you back. I'm a lurker but I love your blog and check it weekly (sometimes daily) to see if there's anything new. You have so many great ideas and solutions to things. And Jude, of course. Who can resist Jude? Glad you're stronger, happier and healthier. Keep at it! Cheers to you. ~ Natalie

Cheryl said...

Very happy to see you're back in the game. Those ladies had better watch out. Super EG on the loose.

And, of course, as always, I'm amazed at what you're getting out of your garden. I'm trying the Moon & Stars this year. Hope the squirrels let the grow.

the coconut and the squid said...

Jeff,

I just stumbled on your blog/videos while doing a search on tomatoes (on YouTube). I'm very sorry to hear about your loss. Your videos and blogs are very informative and interesting. Thank you taking the time to make them! You have a new fan here.

Jeff (Pasadena, CA)